Does this sound familiar?

It’s been a long day and you’re feeling worn out. All you want is some quiet time to unwind in peace but your children are hungry, bickering and need your attention.

The noise and constant whining start to grate. You feel your body tensing as your adrenaline levels start to rise. Your nerves are rapidly fraying. The inner peace you savoured this morning has evaporated.

Before you know it, you have snapped. And find yourself yelling at them in exactly the same way your parents would yell at you. Saying mean things, perhaps even throwing or breaking something in frustration.

They stare at you. Perhaps they start to cry; you can see that you have scared them. And then the shame cycle begins.

You had such good intentions for today. You vowed to be a more patient, more stable, more tolerant mama - to be there for them in the way that they need you to be.

And yet events have proven to you that - yet again - you are unable to get there. You have failed to be the conscious parent you so badly want to be.

Instead you have shown that you are volatile, ‘bad', unable to keep calm, to be kind, or hold space for their big feelings.

Because it’s always your big feelings that get in the way, first.

And (more importantly) IT IS NOT ALL YOUR FAULT.

The reason that your big feelings get in the way of you holding space for your kids is because they are old emotions dating back to your childhood.

You were unable to process these at the time because you weren’t psychologically evolved enough to do so. And you couldn’t express them because you were afraid of being punished or rejected by your primary caregivers if you did.

So all the anger, shame, resentment, grief, frustration or sadness you felt as a child or adolescent - but couldn’t show - got shoved back in. And it’s been accumulating ever since.

Shoving these emotions down was the right thing to do at the time - you needed to belong to the family unit in order to survive, and therefore learnt to put the family ‘rules’ first.

But these old feelings from your past haven’t gone away. They are still ‘stuck’ in your body, waiting to be processed consciously.

And so when something happends to or around you that reminds you of your past, they are stirred up in you once again. And you are taken back to being that child/adolescent/young adult whose parents didn’t have the capacity to meet her needs.

In short, your past is hijacking your present.

Now imagine how it would feel to:

It’s a 3-step process…

Step 1

ACKNOWLEDGING YOUR TRAUMA

understand why you are the way that you are and how the way that you were parented is unconsciously affecting how you show up in your relationships and parenting

Module 1: Laying Foundations

Through two beautiful rituals, anchor in why you are here: set healing intentions for yourself (what you want receive from this course and what you need to bring in order to create success) and make sacred promises to your children. Learn how the effects of developmental/attachment trauma are showing up in your life (even if your past was also happy and positive) and hear my reasons for being here, via my own journey from self-loathing to self-love.

Module 2: You Are Not Your Parents

Explore how your childhood and the way in which your parents brought you up has affected the way in which you relate to yourself, to the world, and how you relate to others (including your partner and children). Identify unconscious beliefs, values, judgements, coping mechanisms and fears that you inherited and how these play out in your view of yourself as both a ‘good’ and ‘bad’ mama. Find wholeness in your mother role with a balancing ritual that acknowledges how both sides serve you, and are equally welcome.

Module 3: Processing Emotions

Identify which emotions you unconsciously judge yourself for feeling, your current go-to coping mechansims (how these relate to your parents and how these might not be serving you) as well as learning a healthy, sustainable alternative in the form of ‘reparenting’ your inner child.

Module 4: Facing Fears

Explore the six most common forms of resistance that naturally arise as part of your healing journey (such as inherited cultural, familial or religious taboos, misplaced loyalty, or the biological wiring that ensures that a part of you views your parents a certain way) and learn how to overcome these.

Step 2

HEALING YOUR TRAUMA

truly accept your parents and enjoy a more authentic, meaningful relationship with them as an adult, through releasing old, stuck grief and anger from your childood And relying on your inner parent to meet your emotional needs

Module 1: Prioritising Nurture

Identify both what you feel and need in any given moment, learn to communicate that effectively and ask for support in meeting it, as well as practising micro-dosing daily nuggets of nourishment in order to counterbalance this deep innerwork.

Module 2: The Mother Imprint

Explore the legacy of your mother* not being there for you in the ways that you needed her to be: the effects on you growing up, as well as now as an adult (in your parenting, intimate relationships and self-regard), and how to clear this in order to show up as the mama, partner and woman that you want to be.

Module 3: The Father Imprint

Explore the legacy of your father* not being there for you in the ways that you needed her to be: the effects on you growing up, as well as now as an adult (in your parenting, intimate relationships and self-regard), and how to clear this in order to show up as the mama, partner and woman that you want to be.

Module 4: Triggers, Integrating Painful Memories & Staying Grounded

Use what causes a disproportionate reaction to signpost the unprocessed wounds and unhelpful self-limiting beliefs from your past that need healing, learn how to integrate painful memories in somatic ways with the support of your inner parent, and discover 19 physical, mental and emotional tools to either calm you down or discharge unwanted energy when you are feeling triggered.

(*mother/father refers to the primary caregiver who most resembled this 'archetype' in your life)

Step 3

BEYOND YOUR TRAUMA

acknowledge the impact of your inner work journey on your future physical health, anchor in your newfound acceptance (of yourself and others) and make peace with your past!

Module 1: Your Legacy

Recognise the physical effects of the challenges of your childhood on your body (including your pre-innerwork ACE score), learn to work with nervous tics or habits by seeing them as pointers to your deeper emotional needs in any given moment, and anchor in future resilience through a beautiful ritual acknowledging past and current tools, resources and the supportive people in your life.

Module 2: Integration

Consolidate and celebrate your insights, learnings and growth on this journey with a symbolic closing ritual preparing you for a new chapter of your life that is calm, conscious, confident and capable!

all of the above For life!! 🤯

You have 2 options to participation:

With ‘Making Peace With Your Past’, you can expect to:

💙 Journey deep into what makes you YOU, why you are the way that you are, and how to release whatever is no longer in alignment with who you want to be.

💙 Explore how past experiences, inherited beliefs and unconscious family patterns have contributed to your low self-worth and lack of self-belief, and how this is holding you back from sharing your full self with the world.

💙 Learn how to feel safe enough to release the fears that you have embodied since childhood, and how to reintegrate the parts of you that you have judged or rejected as unacceptable.

All Of The Above for life!!

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Explore how Making Peace With Your Past can support you, by booking a complimentary, 45-minute discovery session with me here.

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