I Was Feeling So Much Pain And Anger From My Childhood

When we first connected, I was searching for guidance. I was feeling so much pain and anger from my childhood and this was affecting all aspects of my life: my parenting, my marriage and other relationships.

I never thought that I would be able to heal the relationship with my parents (or allow myself to let them go) - I felt like the anger was so deep that there was no way to release it.

I had worked with a therapist and a positive psychologist before and had learned a lot of mindset strategies, but these weren't sticking and I didn't know why.

I had never heard about the inner child before I found Lavinia but when I read about her work it clicked and I knew that it was exactly what I needed in order to heal.

Since coaching, I have been able to really understand my feelings and why I have them. I am able to help my inner child to feel safe and loved (something that she had never experienced before) and this has allowed me to lead my life as an adult rather than as a scared, sad and angry child.

What surprised me the most during our series was how I was able to inner parent myself, which in turn, lead me to be a better parent to my actual children. My biggest learning was how to love and trust myself, which has been such a huge gift.

I always looked forward to my sessions with Lavinia and left them feeling so seen and heard. The action steps and plan for the weeks ahead really kept me on track. And I was so surprised at how much journaling was able to help me to release my feelings of anger and pain.

Lavinia is an amazing coach who truly understands - I felt so heard and valued every time we spoke and she gave me incredible advice.

Now, having done this work, I truly believe that inner parenting is the only way to truly heal. Years of therapy never gave me results like this.

~ Jamie Oakley, physician assistant & mama, USA