I Was Overwhelmed By My Emotions And Responsibilities
Before my coaching series, I was struggling to manage my life, both as a mother and as a partner. I was overwhelmed by my emotions and responsibilities; I was tired of self-pity and had no self-confidence. Worst of all I was projecting it all in my day-to-day life - it was full of stress and constant arguments that lead nowhere but to more stress. I felt like a leaf blown about in the wind!
I felt shy about opening up before my first session but wanted to as I was sure that this was the right thing to do for me! What shifted for me almost immediately was the realisation that I was the one who needed support - not the mum, not the partner - but me: the woman who had been giving so much for so long that she had forgotten all about herself!! This helped me to set two amazing goals, to focus on myself, to reach out to my old self and to bring her back to the surface. And to my surprise, she was ready to reach back!!
Every coaching session revealed different issues to work on, but the best tool for me to not get overwhelmed, was the consistent focus on my two goals. This revealed my progress and the progress kept me going. Since the series, my friends have noticed a change in me: they say that I sound more confident and that I am more engaged. I’ve noticed that now I see myself at the centre of my life circle with control over my reactions to what is happening around me! I am no longer just going with the flow! I feel much calmer and more relaxed. I can shift the dynamics of conversations and interactions with others and still remain in control. I can even see changes at work: I am more confident both about speaking my mind and managing my workload.
I would like to thank Lavinia for her amazing support and for her positive, friendly and yet professional attitude throughout my coaching sessions. She created a safe environment for me to step out of my shell and face my weaknesses without hating myself. She listened patiently to my long stories and yet somehow always managed to tip my focus back towards my goals. If I had to describe my coaching experience in 3 words I would say I am now “swimming not sinking”!
~ S.H, consultant & mother, UK