Events From My Childhood Were Dictating Who I Was

There was no significant event that propelled me to start coaching, just a general feeling that I wasn't enjoying my life in the way that I wanted to. I had a sense that something was holding me back and that I was now in a position to see if I could uncover the root causes and move forwards.

After a group Headspace session with Lavinia, so many aspects of what she discussed made complete sense. This made me realise that there was something that I could do to make positive changes in my life, and that there was someone out there to help me do this.

I had never worked with a coach before and didn’t have any clear expectations about how it would be, just a hope that the sessions might provide me with some practical guidance on how I could help myself.

Before our first session together I felt excited and nervous - perhaps a little unsure of what would be uncovered and whether I was ready to take it all on board. Afterwards, however, I realized just how much of an impact my childhood had had on my adult life – on how I’d approached and reacted to things and how potentially unconscious events had dictated who I was now.

This has actually been my biggest learning. The coaching process taught me how to work through those childhood events and it’s had such a positive impact on how I am feeling today! I’ve realized that the ways in which I feel about things or act isn't always 'my fault' but a reaction to my upbringing. This has given me a sense of freedom.

The biggest change I’ve witnessed in myself has been my ability to rationalise my reactions and feelings and my understanding of why I feel the things I do when certain events happen. Coaching hasn't taken the feelings away altogether but I'm able to move on more quickly rather than dwelling on them, which is something that I used to do a lot.

It was not only a great comfort to know that I could reach out for support from Lavinia in between sessions but also the 24/7 online access was really helpful because it allowed me the time to digest her feedback before meeting face to face. Lavinia's Instagram stories were also a source of great inspiration during this process.

I never felt rushed during these sessions and I think the coaching series was good value. I can see a time when I will return for more!

~ C.P, customer experience consultant & mother, UK