I Felt Like A Failure - As A Mum, Daughter And Wife

When we first connected, I was feeling like a failure as a mum, a daughter and a wife: I felt like I needed to be in control of everything around me and was never present; I was always looking to see what I needed to do next or what others needed to be doing to help me to complete my never-ending to-do list, and when this didn’t happen I would feel completely out of control – I would lash out, be in a bad mood and feel depressed.

I had never worked with a coach before and was expecting to have my life changed completely. I expected to become a totally different person - someone I wouldn’t recognize that was completely different to me. Boy, was I wrong, and I’m so glad that I was!

I now love me and that’s something I’m not sure I ever did, even partially. I have come to terms with not being perfect and instead, accepting who I am. I have learnt that I am fun! Lots of fun! And that I don’t need to have everything under control in order to feel like I can let go and just be.

I am more present with my kids, less demanding of them and more relaxed in general. I have also rekindled the spark that was starting to fade with my husband just by feeling more at ease, more present and better about myself.

I surprised myself the most during the series by realizing that I do love who I am. And that I am a great person, a great mom, wife and friend. And that this was always there – hiding – waiting to come out!

My biggest learning was that I didn’t know how much my childhood had affected me, and that my birth family was not as perfect as I thought it was.

Lavinia is amazing and worth the two extra sessions we added on! I feel like this experience and the tools I have learned are something that will stay with me for a lifetime.

   ~  Carolina Blanco, management consultant & mama, Italy