I Was Feeling Out Of Control As A Mother

When we first connected, I was yelling at my kids, getting triggered by their developmentally-appropriate behaviour, I felt unable to be present with them, and was just feeling out of control as a mother.

I felt at a loss for what to do to change and was hoping that the coaching would support me to dig into the needs of my inner child (the one I felt was being triggered) and to finally be able to move beyond this to have a better relationship with myself, my kids, my husband and my parents.

Our progress was sneaky – during our work, I started to see small changes occurring, that added up, in the end, to me being a completely different person - the person I feel I truly am (rather than the one I was being controlled by).

As a result, I’m now able to be present with my kids, parents and husband in a way I never have before, I have lost any animosity towards my parents and can be calm and not get triggered in their presence, I can see my kids for who they are - and while I still might yell at them here or there, I can see where this comes from, and can talk to them about it afterwards or even stop.

My partner says I have changed so much – that I can voice my needs to him, that I am calmer and that I can now show my unconditional love for him and our kids in a way that he knew I always felt but had a hard time expressing.

I surprised myself the most during the series by being able to let go of all the negative emotions I felt towards my parents, to truly accept them and my past, and to move forward to live in the present.

My biggest learning was that you don't always need to know how something works to know that it works.

There is nothing I wish we could have done differently - I loved how flexible Lavinia was around diving into topics that came up organically, such as money, status, relationships with others (like friends), and of course my husband.

Thank you - I am so grateful for the gift of the relationship I have with myself and with my family now. I only wish I could have done this work with you sooner. I think the coaching series was good value and I couldn't recommend you enough!

 ~ Amanda Deacon, charity founder, communications/branding advisor & mama, Canada