I Was Having A Crisis Of Confidence

When we first connected, my parents had gone through a messy divorce, I was having a crisis of confidence, I was ready to take the plunge in renavigating my career after two children, I was struggling to cope with the change of moving house/location, generally feeling overwhelmed by the demands of life and feeling unable to speak up for what I needed or wanted. 

I had never worked with a coach before but had high expectations after I'd seen the wonderful, transformational results of a close friend, and thought- I want some of that! I knew it was going to be tough and a big commitment but I was ready for lasting change. 

Before our first session, I felt apprehensive and under pressure to reveal my whole self in a short amount of time, but the session was much more straightforward, practical and uplifting than I had expected. 

Since coaching, my relationship with my partner has absolutely improved. Communication with him is the best it's ever been and the ripple effect of unapologetically prioritising my needs has extended into family dynamics with our own parents, siblings, children and friends. I am able to be so clear about how I feel!  

I have started taking guilt-free trips away from the children and my husband, which has had a hugely positive impact. I wasn't overly shouty before but I raise my voice even less now, I'm so much calmer less reactive. I recognize when it’s my inner child that is causing me to react and can recover from setbacks or stressful moments much more quickly. I think my kids are more relaxed with me and I am less triggered by any emotional outbursts that remind me of any discomforts in my own childhood.  

In terms of my biggest learning during the coaching series, this was to learn to listen to and respect my body and to trust that I need rest. 

Where I surprised myself the most was by realizing just how much my inner child was ruling my life before all of this work. And by how much my newfound ability to say no to things that I don't want to do and to commit to decisions that have my best interests at heart, has been inspiring to other women!  

More recently, I’ve connected with a female publishing press who want to publish my poetry collection, and I’ve just landed my first acting job since having my second son! After all the hard work and progress it feels like tweaking my hormones was the missing piece and I finally feel like I'm getting my life back! It’s been amazing.  

~ Stephanie Moore, actor/voiceover artist/writer & mama, UK