I Was Struggling With Anger, Impatience And Frustration

When I first contacted Lavinia, I was struggling with anger, impatience and frustration, which I was trying to keep inside instead of unleashing on my children or husband. I had one parent who was full of rage and another who seemed not to have prevented us children from being their target, and I didn't want this for my own children.

I was also dealing with health issues and whilst I felt like I should be full of joy and vibrancy - as I once was - I was not. I felt angry, sad, emotional and beat down.

During our coaching series, I surprised myself the most by realizing that the parent I had the biggest issue with was not the one I ended up focusing on the most! Now, however, I am able to listen to my family members without being triggered by what they say or do, and I can communicate my feelings effectively.

Moreover, I am now, more often, able to handle my kids' big emotions and challenging behavior with a practiced intentional response, rather than with dysregulated reactions of my own. I interpret what is going on with my kids in a different way, while also recognizing my own need for feelings, which has led to acceptance and validation.

Instead of feeling this constant buzz of frustration and irritation, I feel that my default state is more often one of peace and calm - I feel steady and able to handle what is coming, rather than reacting. I am now aware of all parts of myself - physical and mental - and I have tools to help me address and overcome the past while addressing issues that come up now, in the way I want to.

I think that the series was good value! The care and attention I received were just right for what I needed - we covered everything that I wanted to and more – and I am proud of having been able to be open and to listen to my intuition, while letting Lavinia guide me through the process. This felt important and enabled me to get the most out of our sessions together.

While I am aware of the possibility that things may come up in the future, I feel that I have all the tools I need to address these. I also know that Lavinia will be there if I need her again one day.

 ~ Nicole Pinto, exercise physiologist, researcher, consultant & mama, USA