I Felt Alot Of Anger, Resentment And Depression

When we first connected, I felt a lot of anger, resentment, and depression. I felt like my negative feelings were out of control and it was affecting my daily life.

I'd worked with therapists before, and I think that therapists can help a person identify why something is painful or triggering but not necessarily guide them over what to do about it. Maybe for some people identifying a ‘why’ is enough but it wasn't for me - I needed help to process my ‘whys’ and what to do in order to move beyond them.

Before our first session together, I was scared to talk about myself and scared that I would waste money and come out the other side with nothing new learned or achieved. I was wrong.

It certainly isn't pleasant to review old wounds and learn how to work through them and not let them control you, but I feel that this is necessary for anything to get better.

My life has very much improved since coaching! Before, I would push my anger, frustration and resentment down until it all turned into depression. I would also avoid speaking up for myself unless it came out as an outburst at the worst moment.

Now, I feel more confident in acknowledging my negative feelings and can process them productively so that they don't control me, and I feel more confident in asking for help and in setting appropriate boundaries. I believe this makes me a better partner, parent and person.

I surprised myself the most during the series by realizing that there was something I could actively do to make peace with my past and make my daily life better. It's shocking frankly that I now feel at peace with both of these huge parts of my life. There is a regime I need to maintain in order to continue to feel this, but I see this as possible and I feel relief.

My biggest learning was around how much my inner parent can do.

I thought that the coaching series was very good value, given what I got out of it - it was an investment in myself that years of therapy could not provide. Thank you, Lavinia!

~ Lucy Millfield, business owner & mama, USA