I Felt Burnt Out By Being A Parent

When we first connected, I was going into rages with our adopted son and felt burnt out by being a parent. Our son was more attached to my husband and I felt it was my fault. I also felt sad about my relationship with my husband and found it difficult to accept that he still loved me despite my behaviour.

Since our coaching series, I still frequently have rages but I am now more self-compassionate and sometimes catch myself or have the space to do something different. I am beginning to realise how much my physical and emotional state (including my menstrual cycle) influence me, and am taking that more seriously.

Although I still sometimes 'lose it' with my son,  we now have connected times too. I am learning more constructive ways to release anger, such as dancing and boxing. I have learnt how to 'speak from the heart' to my husband and we are taking tiny steps towards recapturing some romance in our lives and I am able to recognise that my reactions are hard-wired into my nervous system, which is not my fault.

I surprised myself the most during the series by the amount of emotion that came up during some somatic sessions. My biggest learning was that a lack of good things can affect you as much as the presence of bad things.

I am grateful to Lavinia for her patience – already after our first session, I felt energised and that she understood me. I also really appreciated how honest she was about her own journey. This really helped me to know that she got it and still struggles with things herself.

Coaching was a big investment and I am hoping that the learning will endure or anchor in over time so that I continue to see the benefits long term!

~ Voy Katick, ESOL teacher & mama, UK