I Was Struggling To Take Up Space

When we first connected, I was struggling with my relationship with self – with being willing to take up space beside my children, my family and my job and feeling angry towards all three.

I had never worked with a coach before and expected a cheerleader - someone to help me connect current personality trends with childhood experiences.

Before our first session together, I felt like some powerful, transitional things would occur - that I might heal some unhealthy patterns by confronting them with a stranger - no matter how embarrassingly silly they might seem.

Since coaching, my personal time remains a sliver of my life but I make sure to use that time for myself. I can now relax into the universal mother (my version of the inner parent) and allow her to soothe and comfort me, which has opened up a space for me to take care of myself - I now have more courage and more drive to pay attention to my wants and needs.

I surprised myself the most during the series by my ability to set up a morning routine which I am still sticking with today - thank you Lavinia!

I still have a tough time connecting my childhood wounds to my reactions today – and more importantly, knowing how to change my reactions, but my biggest learning was that I can’t begin to untie the knot of anger/confusion/inertia within me without first taking up space for myself in my own life.

I think the coaching series was absolutely good value, given what I got out of it!

~ Sarah Junker, physician & mama, USA