I Would Get Mad And Then Feel Guilty

When we first connected, I was struggling with parenting, teaching and staying patient. I was easily irritated and would inappropriately snap about little things that didn’t warrant big reactions; I had low energy a lot of the time and wasn’t sleeping well. Little things that my child would do would trigger me, and I would get mad and then feel guilty.

Before finding Lavinia, I had been through several different therapists and counsellors over the last 7 to 9 years.  My experience with counselling was poor; I felt like I was never making any progress.  I wanted to be a better parent, but counselling wasn’t working.  I felt like the few memories I had from childhood were impacting my ability to be the best me I could be.  I felt like I was never making progress; I needed something different.

I was very nervous prior to our first session - I didn’t sleep well the night before and neither did my son who was moving around all night and waking up on and off. I think that he could feel my anxiety. After the first session (not scary at all!), I no longer had that much anxiety - I finally felt like I had found somebody who had heard what I was saying and was able to make me feel comfortable enough to say the things that I needed to say. Even after the first session I felt a little weight lifted; I knew this was what I had been searching for.

Since coaching, I feel much more confident in who I am. I got up the courage to leave a job that sucked everything out of me, I don’t have this constant tightness in my chest anymore, I feel light, happy and free.

My son feels safer and is randomly sharing beautiful things that he observes about life, such as opening the windows in the morning, looking out at the sunrise and saying “wow it’s so beautiful”. And that’s because I’ve done the work to make myself a better person, a better parent, and our home a better, more comfortable, safer place.

I surprised myself the most during the series by how well and by how quickly I could work through the father imprint and the mother imprint, just by healing a couple of memories. I was also surprised by how easily I could talk with Lavinia about the things that I couldn’t talk about before. I know that this is because she made me feel heard and validated in a way that nobody ever has before.

My biggest learning was inner parenting.  At first, it felt so uncomfortable, I didn’t want to be there.  But once we figured out how to make it work for me – it was incredible.

What amazed me, is how Lavinia taught me how to ‘re-write’ childhood memories. I was scared that I only had a few to work with but whenever I thought about them, my body would react physically. Amazingly however, after ‘re-writing’ those 3-4 memories, they are gone - I no longer think about what really happened and I now think about the re-written ones. None of the physical reactions are there!

I think that the coaching was 100% great value - I could definitely not have done this work by myself and I think that every single woman in the world should be able to experience the healing and growth that I’ve been able to do over the last couple of months.

I don’t know what else to say other than thank you, because you are amazing. Thank you so much!

~ Sierra Daley, teacher & mama, Canada